Pickleball will break your heart. It’s designed that way.

Pickleball players tap paddles after a doubles game.

“You’ll have fun!” “You’ll meet people!” “You’ll compete again!” All of those things are true about pickleball. But you also will get your heart broken. If you play long enough, it is inevitable. I’m a clinical psychologist and a competitive doubles player, and after years of playing this sport and studying relationships, I’ve come to […]

Stop setting outcome goals with your pickleball partner. Set process goals instead.

Ben Johns and Gabe Tardio celebrate after a win on the PPA Tour in 2026.

You and your partner have goals. Of course you do. Win the bracket. Hit 4.0 by fall. Don’t lose to those two again. Maybe you’ve never said them out loud, but they’re there, humming under every game you play together. Here’s what the best competitors in every sport already know: Outcome goals don’t drive performance […]

How to know you’ve found the right pickleball partner (it’s not what you think)

Pickleball partners celebrate after a point during the 2024 Kitchen Open.

Everybody is looking for a partner. Maybe you’re between partners right now, rotating through open play, trying people out. Maybe you’ve got a tournament coming and a decision to make. So you run the checklist we all run: Similar (or higher) skill level, compatible style, available when you are, wants to compete as much as […]

3 big myths holding your pickleball game back — Part 1

Pickleball players compete at The Kitchen HQ in Austin, Texas.

Before I became a pickleball coach, I was a pickleball player. As part of my “training” at the local courts, fellow players imparted their “wisdom” onto me. Three bits of advice I received shortly after I began playing were particularly disruptive to my play. Let’s avoid further damage to your play by debunking these myths […]

Winning the transition zone: Why one drop shot is often not enough

Pro pickleball player Catherine Parenteau hits a reset from the transition zone.

Navigating through the transition zone to the kitchen line is one of the great pickleball challenges. It is not always a straight path. More often, it is a zigzag journey that requires multiple drop shots and resets before you successfully reach the kitchen line. The third-shot drop gets most of the attention, but in many […]